Who wears the pants in your FourSquare?

On FourSquare Jon and I used to have a recurring competition when it came to checking into locations, primarily, his residence.  I was determined to be the Mayor of his house.  Everytime I’d check-in, I’d hear an emasculated sigh from across the room and I could swear I heard his eyes rolling into the back of his head too.

He matched my check-in’s with a resentful and mighty ferocity of his own check-in’s such that it took me as long as three months to eventually give up.  He was determined, more so than I, it seemed, to remain Mayor of his own house.  I laughed it off as a silly little game and chalked it off as a ‘boy’s thing’.  It was quite obvious that Jon felt the need to remain the head of his virtual household, and I was absolutely okay with that.  So I totally became the Mayor of his mother’s house instead.  Hah!

The point of this post?  Clearly Jon is better at FourSquare than I am. He has a hard time bringing this ‘leadership’ through to his real home.

Jon feels being head of a table is old fashioned, it makes him slightly uncomfortable, but sits there because I pretty much force him to by placing his setting there.  He says that he’s my equal and that there should be no ‘head’ place for him.  Everybody go ‘Awww’.

Most nights, we enjoy cooking together in the kitchen, followed by dinner at a set table.  Call us old fashioned and traditional, I don’t care.  It’s something we both enjoy, and it gives us a proper opportunity to ‘talk’.  About work, life, family, bullshit, sex.  Whatever.  We talk a lot, it’s how we roll.

My outlook on the matter is that the seeds we sow now, will be the kids we grow tomorrow*.  Or something.  Basically, I want to start traditions now that we might follow if we were to ever expand and start a family.  In that family, Jon will be seen as the head.  Right? Or am I hopelessly misguided and should get with the times?

Seriously, lets discuss this very important and pressing matter, I’m curious to see what you think…

* Totally just made that up right now.  I’m super clever.

PS: Am leaving for Cape Town tomorrow for a week – so exciting!  Goose and I are sharing a room and everything.  Watch out, WTF Conference, The Bee & The Goose are in town!!!


  1. Bridget says:

    Hmmm… You are old-fashioned about your notions of head of household. And anyway, women rule the roost, everyone knows that. But I think its sweet that you want to give Jon that space.

  2. Shebee says:

    Hahahaha! Guy, you made me chuckly – nicely said!

    Budget – Ja but surely one person is supposed to be the scary one? Apparently I’ve picked the short tooth pick and will be bad cop to any future kids. So the bad cop says there will be a fucking head of table.

  3. Gina says:

    If we had an oblong table instead of a round one I would make Paul sit at the head.
    I like the idea of eating at the table all together, just wish we could get our act together to do it every night instead of just shabbat and when we have guests…
    As an aside: I really really hate our round table and my wish every night is to for it to burst into flames and out of its ashes a beautiful oblong table emerges *sigh*

  4. Tara says:

    We kinda eat at the table if that helps? I mean…the table is technically a dining room table and we just use it as our computer table…

    Fuck okay we’re just a lost cause.

    I reckon if it’s what works for you guys and makes you happy then that’s awesome. It’s cool yo!

  5. Tara says:

    I think that’s awesome. Woman’s Lib is not about being better than men, it’s about being free to make our own choices. If you want to make the choice to sit at the and eat dinner together (which by the way-is awesome) and let him/force him to sit at the head; well then that’s your choice! 🙂

  6. Po says:

    I don’t know, I don’t believe in heads of households, I don’t really believe in anything. We never had heads of table growing up, I think kids give parents the respect they deserve, I never gave my Dad much respect because I didn’t feel he deserved it! He wasn’t the head of my household 🙂

  7. Julia says:

    My mother taught me that the man is the head of the household. She also taught me that if the man is the head then that would make the woman the “neck”. In other words, the neck can move the head in any possible direction. This advice works sometimes if I need to get my way with something.

    Otherwise, we are equals. And eating dinner together around the table every night is very cool. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

  8. hardspear says:

    Depends on who shouts the loudest or nags for the longest time. Lamb recently implied that I am slapgat for not fixing the fascia board which fell off in a storm.

  9. Angel says:

    I’m so glad for you and Goose that WTF is finally happening!
    I love that you are doing something “proper” and something you can continue to do forever. I grew up with my dad at the head of the table, so it seems perfectly normal to me. 🙂

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